Motherhood, Dear Boys...

Dear Boys...

I’ve been blogging on and off for years now. When I became pregnant with my first born, I started a series called “Dear David” where I wrote letters to him about things on my mama heart. In the midst of this crazy life, I stopped. Now I have two beautiful boys and I’d like to start writing letters to them both. So here is the first of many letters addressed to my sweet princes. I pray the Lord will lead me to share the right subjects with the right motives and express how deeply loved they are by their mama and the God we serve. As I approach this next subject that has recently brought about great controversy, I ask that you join me in prayer for my boys to grow up and open to receive these messages with pure hearts.

Dear Boys...

When daddy and I first met, we worked in a place where many people were from many walks of life. Our greatest memories were with others of a different race. They had different lives and different experiences. Not all of our skin colors matched and that was more than okay.

Daddy is French Canadian with a touch of Native American and has family from Maine. Mommy is Puerto Rican with deep family roots straight from the island and was born in Hartford. Our family members don't all have the same skin color or background. That never stopped us from falling in love and blending our amazing families together. In fact, we both feel it has enhanced our view on life and we have learned so much about culture and community. God made us each very special and we both try to respect that.

Boys, mama's heart hurts over a tragic situation that took place in our nation recently. Good people were hurt. As Christians, we must ALWAYS look to the Word of God for answers and comfort in sad situations beyond our control. God tells us that we must love one another, no matter what because God loves everyone and we should too.

"This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you." John 15:12

I don't even know how to write this properly but I'll do my best. As an Hispanic American, my skin color was always on the light side and so I didn't have to endure a lot of discrimination. Even though I was 100% Puerto Rican, people treated me differently because of how I looked. Because mommy looked "white". Even though there were many shades in my family, I personally was spared from yucky experiences that other people have gone through. This is the sad truth and I don't consider myself lucky.

You both, by society standards, are "white" because of your skin color. In actuality, you boys have other races in your bloodline. I don't want you to be blinded by what you see in the mirror. I don't want you to be blinded by the opinions of others. I want your eyes to be open to the truth: that every human being comes from the lineage of the Lord Jesus Christ...and, babies, Jesus was not white.

We are all humans, all brothers and sisters. God sees no color. He created us in His image and we are commanded to love as He does. Jesus is no respecter of persons and we shouldn't be either.

"Then Peter opened his mouth, and said, Of a truth I perceive that God is no respecter of persons" Acts 10:34

I want you boys to understand something. It is not the color of your skin that gives you power over another. It is not the outside that dictates who to love. That's not God's way. That's not the right way. It is called racism and it is also called sin.

You should never be ashamed of your skin, your family, your mixed race heritage. That is a beautiful gift. It is how God made you and that should be celebrated. But it should never be used as a weapon against another. It should never be used as leverage to gain control or to spread hate. It should never be used to make another human being feel less than human. Because that is a spirit straight from the enemy, not from Jesus.

"Grudge not one against another, brethren, lest ye be condemned: behold, the judge standeth before the door." James 5:9

The enemy's mission is to divide. If he can get us to think or do bad things towards one another, he will take that opportunity every time. Division is not God's mission. One of His greatest desires is for unity especially within His church.

One day, we will be in Heaven with Jesus and our skin color won't matter one bit. Because His church will be made up of all people from many nations. That's how God works. He loves every race, every sinner, every heart. He died for all...not just a select few.

Boys, be love. Every word and deed should be a reflection of the Christ we serve. Spread smiles and joy, not scowls and sadness. The only time you can look down at another person is if you’re helping them up. Hand in hand. Pulling them towards God, not pushing them away. That’s what hate does. It drives out good. Be light. It will push back the darkness and reveal the love of our Father.

Take heed therefore that the light which is in thee be not darkness.” Luke 11:35

See  past the outside and look within everyone you meet. Have compassion on every soul. Love with no limits, no boundaries or requirements. Do better. Be better. We are called to love. There will be consequences after this life for doing the opposite of that. So be love, my boys. Be love to the fullest.

Love Always, Mom